I don't really like the whole process of using code words but most Mistresses I see insist on them. After reading everyone's comments I might approach Mistresses a different way going forward and see if we can just speak clearly to each other. If I have ever used a code word, I don't remember it, but with a new Mistress it's always in the back of my head that I will need to use it to get myself out of a jam and it kind of effects my headspace.