1000% agree with this sentiment... Where my business rules conflict with a Domme's, I just walk away with no hard feelings. Handing over personal data is just one area this could happen.

You don't know they are losing half their business, Ms. Cheyenne. And if they are? That's their business.

The problem is that some men are "lunatics" and it's imperative we weed them out. Dommes have preferences about how to do this. Some speak with everyone who is interested in a session, some meet them, some ask for a deposit, some ask for a reference or two or three, some verify employment, some ask for ID, some don't see anyone new, etc.

I don't know why anyone would disparage someone for wanting to feel comfortable bringing a stranger into a private space for intimate play. Those who are aren't lunatics should understand.

This sounds like a bad business decision. I would never carry personal info of any of my clients on my personal phone. As you said, if it's lost? Yikes!

I'm certainly not telling anyone how to conduct their business. I'm just offering my opinion. Perhaps a lot has changed since I've retired. Maybe I was just oddly lucky with clients. Having spent 10 years in the corporate world, 20 plus years in the ProDom world and, coming into contact with many people in the mainstream world, I found that men in the prodom scene are, overwhelmingly, more respectful to women than the average Joe. The scene, at least in my experience, draws some great people to it. Again, I respect everyone's personal decisions in how they conduct business. I do realize that things could have changed since I retired. But, if I were a client and, screened as if I was a criminal, I'd probably pass on the session. Just my opinion, not criticizing anyone who feels differently.

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I 100% agree Cheyenne and I don't think the business has changed that much, not to the degree that we need to start asking potential clients for their ID or Linkedin profiles. There are probably the same percentage of bad apples out there that there always was, which is fortunately very few. And as you said, people are free to screen however they like if they are willing to live with the results. I know a Domme that insists every new client meet her in public for a cafe date prior to scheduling a session. She is happy with a few sessions a month and that works for her. If I tried to do that I would be in cafe dates all the time and the rent wouldn't get paid ;-)

BTW, the two most unstable clients I ever dealt with had no problem revealing their real name, work details, etc.

This is exactly what I ended up doing, Mistress Cheyenne. I emailed her and said that I appreciated that she has her policies but that I was not comfortable with providing an ID. I offered additional references in case she did not like the ones I gave or felt she needed more. I never received an answer back so I guess that was my answer. Thanks for the advice. I think it probably worked out for the best. I ended up booking with someone else and will have my session next week.

The sad truth is that some of the people who come to us may in fact be criminals. Look at this serial rapist making the rounds.

Some are also blacklisted clients who are trying to pretend to be someone else.

Yes, the vast majority of our clients are wonderful people. But this is not about them; it's about the one who aren't.

Years ago, one of friends in Raleigh, NC, found herself in an overly conservative town. Raleigh has probably become more contemporary but, back then, they'd arrest you for having in impure thought. Even the most legal, careful Dom, could find herself in trouble. So, Avalon would have her clients park their car at a truck stop. Then, she would meet them, blindfold them, have them recline their seat to get them out of view and, drive them back to her place in the woods. She made it fun, the guys loved it and, she felt safe.

And she drove you there in her Toyota Avalon.