Originally Posted By Mistress Ayn
[quote=international]To me the biggest fascination in BDSM is power-exchange. And for that I like to play with a self-confident person.

Originally Posted By Mistress Ayn
I find when mentoring or working with the female half of a couple that the hardest thing for them to master is finding their voice. It's all about confidence and if you don't have it as a Domme it all falls flat.

A healthy self confidence is helpful in any profession. But there is probably no other profession where it is as important as in yours.


Originally Posted By international
Now I am getting on thin ice:
Overall, and overly generalized: I have the impression that women in Europe have a more natural self-confidence than American women, and the further South or East you go in Europe the higher the self-confidence in regards to their (female) personality, and that reflects on the session.
Originally Posted By Mistress Ayn
Interesting. I do think that Americans in general tend to focus more on the superficial. I see that in subs too, so it cuts both ways.

That's funny that you have that impression. It is often Europeans who think that Americans are superficial.
But I attribute that rather to the fact that Americans generally are friendlier than Europeans (particularly in the South). Europeans expect that if somebody is friendly, that they are genuinely interested in them.
A European new to the US easily takes the question "How do you do?" literally.

In terms of self-confidence of women in Europe vs. the US, it may just be that the situation in the US is more challenging for women. In the US it is almost politically incorrect to say that there are differences between men and women, like denying this fact would make everybody equal. Also, pretending that the looks don't matter is just not genuine.
All this may solve some problems, but it may create others.
It's difficult to be equal but different.