Ayn

Good Topic!

Unfortunately, too often for me talking has had a negative impact on the session.

Old movie syndrome
If you watch old movies, the often feel like a spoof, because the actors / actresses so much overplay it. I rather like the session not to be overplayed, and words exacerbate the overplay.
Not wanting to be racist, I generally find Americans are more prone to overplay than Europeans.

When the words don't match the session
I always point out that I am not a submissive, but that I want to be submitted.
Then sentences such as:
"Don't you want to do that for me?" don't work, no I don't want to do it for you , but I do it because I am tied up and you have a riding crop in your hand.
Or:
"How does it feel under my smelly feet?" and they smell like a piece of soap, freshly washed...

Good talk can be a turn-on, but often action speaks more than a thousand words.