Originally Posted By Swordfish
I'm unreasonably proud of myself when I have a unique answer ... or at least, think I do. For me, I like the overall context of a session to be "regular girl uses the power of female sexuality to dominate and humiliate me." To get that context, I prefer, for example, an apartment or hotel room over a formal dungeon. Not easy to suspend disbelief that she's a professional dominatrix, if we're in a fully-equipped dungeon.

Likewise, I like her to look as "civilian woman" as possible. My guidance to her is usually along the lines of: Within whatever your personal boundaries are, just raid your lingerie drawer... something like boyshorts and a tight clingy cotton top, or some yoga pants, or anything along those lines would be awesome... please no leather, no latex, no anything costume-y or dominatrix-y


Not all that unique. I have done 4 very satisfying sessions with a domme up in the NW corner of CT this year. These were all done in her home which does not have a dungeon room. It is remote enough from her neighbors that they can't hear you yell/scream. Three of the sessions she was completely casual (she likes jeans). The other session she wore a nice teddy with nothing BDSM about it. I got the same sort of vibe that I think you are talking about.