I recently had a discussion with an ProDomme from another large town. She's been in the business for 20 years and I have been a pro for 10 and was a lifestyler 10 years prior to that. We both acknowledged seeing a recent shift in the attitude of subs - both current and new, but mainly new. Among recent behavior changes we noted a general lack of respect and failure to follow protocol when contacting, more cancellations and no shows, more forfeited deposits and aggressive/rude dialogue when trying to set up appointments. All of these behaviors centered around one thing - a lack of respect for our time and as people in general.

For her the change started about year ago. I noticed it about 6 months ago. She blames FOSTA/SESTA. Her thoughts are that it put our business in the news and brought out the wrong type of client and that it made existing clients more paranoid. She also cited the polarization caused by politics and beyond.

I also partially laid the blame on divisive issues. I think things like the Me Too movement have caused some animosity between the sexes. I also blamed SESTA/FOSTA but for different reasons. Since SESTA/FOSTA more Dommes have started self identifying as sex workers in solidarity with other industry professionals. My escort acquaintances have always expressed awe in how well Domme's clients tend to treat them. I think by self identifying as SWs we may have further blurred the lines which is fostering this kind behavior.

In the end we mostly agreed with each other's opinions and as a result expanded our own thoughts on the subject. What of your thoughts? Have Dommes done things to make you think of them or treat them differently? Domme's have you noticed the same thing with sub's behavior?

I don't want this to turn into a political discussion and have to move this to the politics sections, so let's keep the discussion limited to the effect some of these things have on Domme and sub behavior. I hope we have a lively discussion.