Thank you for your advice. It is nice that you care enough to offer it. Although this forum is public enough for anyone to seek out, I've always thought of it as being a little bit anonymous. My neighbors, I am quite certain, don't even know that it is exists. It is really nice to be able to share things with like minded folks that would be completely lost on others.

First of all:
Lucky guy! I should have vacationed in Tennessee as well :-)

Second:
How can you be so sure he didn't watch some of your videos?
If it was me, I definitely would do some background research, even if it wasn't "my thing", just out of curiosity.
Maybe this gave him the idea with the Tens unit...
... just a little mischievousness :-)

Finally:
I am happy for you!
And thanks for all your enthusiastic and well written contributions to this board!

The little town where Jack and, I bought our vacation home in Tennessee, is really cool. The circle of friends we were close with knew, vaguely, knew about my career and, laughed it off..."Well, maybe she was a stripper in college - kind of attitude." No one really cared. This area was a great find...such special people. So, my fiance knew..and, as funny as it is that he seems like he is setting himself up...the innocence is endearing. He really doesn't have a clue that a tens unit is any more than a therapeutic device for sore muscles or, who he just gave one to. It does inspire a ClubDom script...unsuspecting or, giving hints? Hmmm.....

First obvious congratulations. I’m very happy for you as I’m sure everyone else here is too. You are a sweetheart and it’s nice to see good things happen to good people.

I’ll try and answer your question without writing a book which is what it would really take. Basically I would not want to be dominated by my wife in any way even if she was into it sexually which she most definitely is not. I’ve been married a long time. It’s been good but we my wife is a type A person who likes to run things and I’m a type A person for a large part as well. Outside of my submissive maso sexual orientation I don’t like to be run and I’m not submissive at all. We have a lot in common but also are very different and truthfully we’ve been good for each other. Our temperaments are also luckily very different.

Wow. That sounds like mine and, Jack's relationship. After he passed and, his kids went digging and, found out that I was a dominatrix, they just went nuts. If they only knew...two kinky people found each other, loved each other and, gave each other freedom to get their blue moon freak on once in a while...all the while enjoying a very traditional marriage. It does happen. I've never been a 24/7 kind of dom. My former personal slave may disagree...lol. But, we were best friends, above kink. We keep in touch, after all of these years. 24/7 seems unnatural to me. But, to each other own...no judgements. My experience has been that owning a 24/7 slave is more work and, responsibility than caring for a dog. On top of that, they are more needy and, complicated.

If it was me, I definitely would play it for a while, just don't know how long...
... eventually I would want to experiment.

Please let us know his explanation once he hands you a riding crop :-)

I will always remember the Frenchman, picking up a steelworks chastity device and asking how that bottle opener worked. (When on doubt, it must have something to do with wine, no?)

Sad for your loss, but happy you have a new love.

It is your life. I think that the last movie James Gandolfini made, "Enough said" maid the same point in a much better way than I could. It was a very good movie too. I hope I am wrong.

:-)

That’s crazy and sad about Jack’s kids digging into your past after he passed. I like to think that my kids would just be happy for me or my wife if we found someone after the other was gone. They are open minded so I’m sure that would be the case as long as the person was a decent person.

24/7 is a hot fantasy which I think on from time to time but I know myself pretty well. I’m strong minded and stubborn and have a lot going on with friends family and what not. As good as the fantasy is I don’t think I could do it not that I am going to have the chance.