Wow. That sounds like mine and, Jack's relationship. After he passed and, his kids went digging and, found out that I was a dominatrix, they just went nuts. If they only knew...two kinky people found each other, loved each other and, gave each other freedom to get their blue moon freak on once in a while...all the while enjoying a very traditional marriage. It does happen. I've never been a 24/7 kind of dom. My former personal slave may disagree...lol. But, we were best friends, above kink. We keep in touch, after all of these years. 24/7 seems unnatural to me. But, to each other own...no judgements. My experience has been that owning a 24/7 slave is more work and, responsibility than caring for a dog. On top of that, they are more needy and, complicated.