Yes...when they are just trying to make conversation...they don't really. Agreed...they are just being polite. But, when new neighbors, the family of someone you are seriously dating...the nosy circle of mom's at your children's school ask...well, they are digging. Some parts of getting older are lousy but, no one really caring so much any more is a perk. I still get that knot and, try to glaze right over it or, ask what they do and, appear fascinated so the topic switches to them.