I hear what you are saying and agree. However, I remember one time going to the Olde English Chamber in Philly. 15 years ago. Set appt. for 7. Told not to be late, or early. Receptionist said if you get here early head to the bar next door and have a drink.
I got there early and went and had a lemon drop shooter and a beer. I was relaxed the whole session and things opened up better.
I certainly wasn’t drunk but felt great and the session went great.