This is not really an a-ha moment, but....

I remember reading a post on MF a long time ago on financial domination and finding the whole idea repellent and crossing so many boundaries. I think I posted a reply joining in on the condemnation. Well, over the years, I've dabbled a bit -- increasing only as my financial ability has able to withstand it has grown. And increasing as maybe my ability to take pain on the physical side has gone down. (All of the online/phone play has been with one person who I communicate well with.) A while ago I did a very intense multi-day scene online and on phone that involved, among other things, heavier financial than I had done before. It was probably the most intense SM I have ever done, and a lot of boundaries were crossed (not just regarding money -- more like psychological/emotional SM). So I guess I'm surprised by that turn of events.