Mistress, for me it was surprise and chemistry in both cases. With the fitness trainer / domina at a prior session months before she announced in mid session, “I have to relieve myself.” Aroused I had the guts to ask, “May I watch?” I was allowed to crawl on my hands and knees to observe. The Mistress knew my limits but I was in deep sub space for her. A few weeks before my first GS I asked for one but she said, “You’ll be too squirrelly,” and dismissed my request. She knew me and my role play, believed in anticipation so I thought that was that, hence my erotic surprise.

The same with my long time Mistress. We did plenty of sessions, some in public, her apartment, hotels, dungeons, doing a lot of stuff, but nothing that intimate. She knew the prior Mistress was retired and based across country but I think it was a competitive thing, so again I was surprised.