Hi Mistress Tissa:

Legal considerations are more relevant now than they ever have been. Despite the many gray areas out there when it comes to enforcement, providers may think it best to assume a "better safe than sorry" approach. I can't say I blame them. With the advent of SESTA/FOSTA, advertising on the Internet suddenly became a minefield. The authorities may decide to blithely ignore providers for years, then bring the hammer down unexpectedly. It's like a game of cat and mouse.

Before I send a polite e-mail of introduction, I make sure to research a domme's interests first, so I don't have one of those embarrassing "can you fuck me in the ass?" moments. Even in this paranoid Internet environment, it should be at least somewhat clear from her website whether our interests align or not. I find it also helps as a client to be open to different styles of domination. Not every domme does every activity and that's okay. I find it best to remain open and I'm usually curious to explore the activities she enjoys doing most, especially if we share interests in common. I don't insist on having it my way or doing the same session every time.

I agree it is not an easy job. I have tremendous respect for the dommes I am privileged to know. I'm also pretty darn grateful. Thank you for doing what you do.