Pedigreed subs like you, jack, would seldom be asked for a deposit.

Provided that the Mistress is an established domme with a reliable history, I don't have a problem with making a deposit. If you can afford the typical tribute for a session, this shouldn't be a problem.

Naturally, I'd be hesitant if this deposit *wasn't* applied to the session total, but I've *never* encountered that.

Wow!

Thank you so much for the kind words. Very high praise indeed coming from someone like yourself. I hope those Southern boys know how lucky they are to be so close to you!

Everyone who sessions with me has to pay a deposit on the first session. This has always been my policy. I'm not one who likes to open myself up for timewasting.

Subsequent sessions don't require one -- unless you're asking for something which involves my buying something or coordinating elements that will cause me (or someone else) a greater loss that I cannot recoup.

I have no issue with people paying them. Though I did recently have my first person cancel it after the session. As they say: one bad apple... Makes me want to change my policy so this can't happen.

As the wise George W. Bush said:

+1

Zero problems paying a deposit.

I try to get a feel for a prodomme's personality before making an appointment and I tend to show up when I say I will be somewhere.

Paying a deposit just means I have to carry less cash.

No problems whatsoever.

I don't mind sending deposits for a session. The way I see it there are only two reasons why a sub would be hesitant to put down a deposit.

1) They are not sure they will (be able to) follow through.
2) The Domme has little to no reputation and they are concerned that they might be scammed.

When deciding to send out a session request I first ask myself if either of these are issues. If they are I pause and reevaluate.

That being said, I do appreciate when a Domme who previously asked for deposits, no longer requires them from me. It does feel good to be trusted by someone you put so much trust in.

I'm not sure it's changed. There have always been a lot of flakes.

I used to ask for deposits on a case-by-case basis, but recently implemented a strict policy of deposits for all new friends. I don't ask for deposits after the first session although I do warn subs that I will require a deposit for every session if they become flakey.

I do find clients are a bit more open to deposits than they used to be but that might just be because I've been around for a decade now.

For me it’s all about the person.

Although I complaint about about too much discussion on money, one time I was visiting and did not have cash. So I transferred 1k USD even before starting from the hotel. She is a TOP domme. I can’t even not trust her.

After the session which got extended , I went back and paid the remaining. She did not ask or remind. In fact, I went back and slept and paid 8 hrs back after waking up.

I won’t break trust over little money.

Since I originally wrote this post I have come to a conclusion:
It's not just our industry that is seeing a rise of this problem.

I have noticed that many appointment based services are requiring security or upfront payment to book. Salons, day spas, masseuses, even doctors. I asked a lady at a spa lately if the incidents of no shows/cancellation had risen and she confirmed that it had. They get a credit card from everyone regardless of whether they are a repeat customer, have a gift card or whatever. Everyone every time. It is sad we have come to that.