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#3230 - 11/06/18 08:53 PM how often upset
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How often does it happen that the guy/client gets upset or angry during a session?

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#3231 - 11/07/18 11:44 PM Re: how often upset [Re: ztrade]
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I have done over 200 sessions and only stopped 5 of them because I was upset:

1. There was a case where the Domme did something I thought was clearly unsafe. I also suspected that she was high on drugs.

2. There was a really bad session for multiple reasons that I am not going to detail

3. There was another session that got off on the wrong foot over the presession instructions

4. There was a session where I gave the Domme clear instructions how to perform an unusual torment. She deviated from them and I threw up.

5. And there was another session with a different mistress and it involved the same torment. In three prior sessions she had done it correctly but this time she decided to improvise. The result was strong nausea. I thought I was going to vomit again but didn't. She did the right thing and said she felt bad about what had happened. I previously had excellent sessions with her and my anger subsided afterwards. I forgave her and we resumed doing sessions.

There was also a time where I grew upset during the session but held my tongue until I was dressing afterwards then let loose. The Domme was one of those that stays in persona afterwards and there was a lot of loud acrimony.

So that was my experience. I suspect there are categories of subs who get riled rather easily. One of them is those clients who try to badger the mistress into doing things on the "Don't Even Ask" list. Another category is guys who like to top from the bottom and get upset when the lady expresses disapproval. There are probably some others.

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#3243 - 12/10/18 12:19 AM Re: how often upset [Re: ztrade]
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Like Thomas, I can only speak for myself. I have never gotten truly angry during a paid session, even ones that did not go well (although I have gotten frustrated). But, I also have never had anyone force me past my stated limits in that context (well, I have but it was always with a buildup & a kevel of consent in the very end).

However, I have gotten angry with a couple of Dommes (all of whom were pros who had extended our relationship into more personal service) when they either put me in a compromising position that was beyond my stated limits in that area or just pushed me too far down the pain path even though we had multiple conversations specifically about that.

My experience is that in a Pro/client setting, Dommes tend to pay much more attention to my limits and I always feel more comfortable saying no when I am paying rather than when it really is about what she wants. Which leads me to allow more before finally being pushed past the brink where anger arises.
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#3266 - 12/11/18 08:52 AM Re: how often upset [Re: ztrade]
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In the thousands of sessions I have done, this has only happened once. Ironically it was with someone I had seen multiple times. He ended the session saying that I was doing things that were not on his interest list. I untied him and attempted to discuss the situation. When I told him I could show him in writing that the activity was on his list of interests and that we had engaged in it multiple times over the years,he got even angrier. He got dressed and left only to email Me later with an apology and wanting to talk so he could "explain" himself. I declined. I had always felt the guy was a bit off and this whole scene just confirmed that.

I have no idea what was going through his mind but it was one of the most uncomfortable and unnerving situations I've been in while in session. Obviously I let My Sister Dommes know what happened so they could decide if they wanted to see him going forward since I would not be seeing him.
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