I saw that exchange on "domme Twitter" as well. There's just such a divide between the online findom crowd, some of which is genuinely misandrist and borderline sociopathic in general, and pro dommes who play face-to-face in real time and were brought up within BDSM culture and learning various protocols, whether those by SSC, RACK, etc. And I think some people get turned on by the former. Like you, I'm fortunate to have played with dommes who embody the latter.