Reading these thoughtful responses, I realize that I'm not a fetishist, since I like a variety of activities all springing from role play. I've been lucky to have good relationships as a regular with several Mistresses over the years. Some gently coaxed me into activities I never did before. At this point, with my one and only Mistress, while I may make a suggestion setting up an appointment she uses the "pallet" of activities we both like, so anticipation becomes overwhelming.