I’m not sure how to answer this. I mean what is a fetishist? Is it just someone with a fetish or someone who is only focused on that fetish to the exclusion of all else or something in between? I’ve seen or heard some Dommes say they don’t like fetishists because that’s all they care about and I can definitely understand that. On the other hand many people have a fetish but also many other session interests.

I’ve had a huge foot , high heel shoe and nude nylon fetish my whole life. It’s the root of all the crazy and perverse BDSM desires I have and this fetish is just as strong now as it ever was. However as I have aged I have evolved and changed. To my great regret I have to admit the fetish was so important to me when I was younger that I missed some great opportunities. I would be so upset if the Domme did not wear what I requested that my headspace was ruined or off the whole session. Now I am at the point where I will still ask someone to wear high heels if it’s the first time I’m seeing her but after that it’s much more about the person and her presence and our chemistry and relationship.