This is really timely for me. It’s a long story I’ll try to condense. I’m a boomer born in the 50s. My earliest memories are of crawling on the floor at my mother’s feet while she was wearing high heels and tan nylons. Thinking about it maybe she was dressed up and going out and I was hanging on to her but truly I have no idea. I just remember the heels and stockings and brushing up against her legs. I’ve had and still have a huge fetish for high heels and nude nylons and from there grew all my submissive and masochistic fantasies which became pretty extreme, many which I lived out and some due to my circumstances which I couldn’t but still desire. Tbh I could never understand how sex could be desirable or enjoyable without a Femdom context. I think I did my first session when I was around 30. Over time the original nude nylon/high heel fetish became a bit less important and the other activities became the focus and I give Troy Orleans a lot of credit for that but that’s another story.

Now the interesting part. Up to recently I would still make the request for nude nylons and high heel shoes and if I do see someone new I still would. The fetish hasn’t gone away. I’m still in good shape but as I’ve gotten older my body just can’t take the beatings and rough treatment that it could even 10 years ago. Still desiring sex in a Femdom context I would seek out FS providers who also did some bdsm. Recently I started seeing someone and our first couple sessions were sensual but still D/s focused. However I noticed that I was truly attracted to this woman in a “normal “ sexual way. This is something I don’t think I’ve experienced before. I’m genuinely surprised by it and also happy and kind of fascinated in an introspective way. She still leads and I’m open to what she wants to do when I see her but my desire for her when I see her is not D/s focused at all. After 70 plus years this is something I never expected My BDSM desires are still strong and the idea of a world bdsm tour starting in Paris is still a fun fantasy i would like to do but it amazes me that this has happened after all these years.