Originally Posted By Leona_Stern
I’m looking for recommendations for directories or platforms that are compatible with a more discreet, old-school approach of advertising.

I’ve been active in kink for many years and tend to work more “underground” rather than through heavy mainstream advertising. I don’t show my face publicly and I’ve historically maintained more of a writing-based presence (blog / long-form content) rather than a traditional commercial website.

With the disappearance of platforms like Craigslist and Backpage, I’m finding it harder to stay visible to serious, respectful people without being pushed into requirements that don’t align with how I work (requiring face photos, full ID verification uploads, glossy marketing websites, etc.).

I’m not opposed to screening, discretion, or professionalism, - quite the opposite - I’m simply looking for spaces that still accommodate privacy, selective engagement, and a more relationship-oriented dynamic and lower commercial presentation.

If anyone knows of directories, collectives, dungeons, or alternative platforms that are friendly to discreet Dommes / more lifestyle-leaning professionals, I’d appreciate being pointed in the right direction.
Thanks in advance.


I understand what you mean but advertising on the internet is about being public.

That said, there are no requirements for what that looks like.

When you say "underground" what does that mean in practical terms? You don't want to be found by people? You want to only be grouped with other underground people? People need to say the secret password to get through your door? Sorry, I jest -- all in good fun smile

Give us a try on BDSMProfessionals.com.

We're for serious providers. No one is required to show their face, provide ID, or have "glossy" websites-- but you do need to have one with some basic info, as, in this day and age, it's expected from professionals in any industry and it distinguishes you as almost-assuredly-not-a-fake in a landscape with lots and lots of scam landmines (that our clients are trying to avoid). Beyond those basic professional criteria, your rules for engagement are all your choice.

But if that's beyond your interest of comfort level then try DickieVirgin.com classified section. It doesn't have SEO, so you'll only be found by the people who specifically go to that page, but there are no website requirements. You could just put an email address or phone, if you'd like. But, again, just know that clients may be wary of providers without something they can really grab onto.