I have only read a couple of true Dominatirx mamoires Myself. The personal journey stuff was a bit boring to Me - her battle with heroin, her struggle to keep her personal relationships together, her search for the perfect career, etc. My biggest complaint with both books was they made Dommes in general seem "broken" (not just themselves but others they encountered) and that being a Domme was just a thing they did during their self discovery. Both of these Dommes were only in the scene a couple of years at best, but that seems to be who usually writes these things. I have yet to read the memoires of a Domme dedicated to her craft. I might feel differently if I read one like that.

The one thing I did enjoy about the two books was the dungeon stories, but that seems to be what most people have issues with. As long as identities are protected, I don't see what the big deal is, but I seem to be in the minority.




When a Domme starts writing about other Dommes things can get a bit sticky. It is much harder to protect identities and can even cause identities to be confused. I wouldn't want to be in her shoes if she dishes on other Dommes and then try to stay in business - especially if she ever intends to run a Dungeon again.


In one of the two books of this kind I have read, the Domme has lots of Dungeon tales and she didn't spare herself in the telling. She admits to falling for a client and gives intimate details of their relationship. I can't imagine anyone reading the book and knowing who that sub was, unless you already knew the Mistress on a personal level. I don't see where the sub was "outed". He might be furious and embarrassed by the contents of the book, but his reputation as a man and sub are intact, because no one knows who he is, except possibly other Dommes he has seen. However, in the same book she does "out" more than one Mistress - two in a very negative light. One was instantly recognizable to me and she is on another continent. That I had an issue with.




That sounds worthy of a chapter.