Not sure how lifestyle you want to go but the current sites that I know most people get traffic on are BDSMprofessionals.com, Dickie Virgin, Fetlife, Reddit, and Tryst. All have vastly different rules and purposes. None compare to the amount of traffic I get from my own website.

If you decide to get on Tryst, beware they are notorious for scammers trying to phish and hack your email or account. I've found work arounds and recognize the scam instantly so it makes the amount of traffic worth it. You'll have to ID verify but you don't have to post photos of your face there.

Reddit I've never had success with, my posts seem to disappear as soon as I get them up but I hear from the more lifestyle crowd they find a lot of subs there.