Hi F/folks:

At Mistress Tissa's request, this post was moved to the reviews section. Thanks.

kbb,
Thank you! I needed to read this today. Yes, at it's best, femdom is therapy, especially when you know the Mistress very well. Wonderful things do happen. I had one session where both the Mistress and I had such a cathartic session we forgot about the tribute, and when she said goodbye to me with a hug and kiss on the cheek as I left her apartment we both remembered at the same time and laughed. I flew back home with joy. I had a session with a touring Goddess I knew well, scheduled it two weeks in advance, but when the day came I was emotionally off due to my job. (Layoffs... luckily I was able to talk management out of it a week or two after the session.) Met the Goddess in her hotel room and she went to change in her bedroom, I decided to leave, and mentioned it, but she saw my distress, and said, "Stay here, I'll be right back." She changed into casual clothes, took me to the couch and asked what was wrong. She listened, gave me advice, held and hugged me. I felt wonderful and relieved as I left. That is the power of femdom in extreme cases.

In the years doing sessions, I've gone through nervousness, guilt, sadness / longing an hour or a day or two after sessions. Maybe it is my old Roman Catholic training! But I have also experienced great joy and satisfaction, even pride when I received compliments from Mistresses during and after sessions.

Mutual trust is the key. As your Mistress mentioned to you, “I come to a session with fifteen different ideas... I just go with the flow and do what I feel.” EXACTLY. One bodybuilder/personal trainer dominatrix I knew who I would see once, twice a year when she traveled, we would talk a week or two in advance about my roleplay. When I got curious as to what we would do, she would not go into detail, saying, "Anticipation is the key, my pet." I sessioned with her for six years until she retired. The Mistress knew me, my roleplay and kinks well, and she was always a joy to session with.

In the past few weeks I've realized I'm at the end of my journey in femdom. I have known my Mistress a long time, and she has been my one & only for several years & it has been a joy, a privilege. I'm of a certain age and looking in the mirror each morning makes me realize that. She is a few years younger than me, but not many, and either her life has changed or I have worn out my welcome. Or both. I'm a client, not lifestyle, and if it ends, I'll be grateful, that's it for me. I need to serve a Mistress I know well. And I realize I've used femdom as therapy, pure entertainment, a reward for good things I've done, stress relief among other reasons. But in the past two, three years I've used it as self-medication for probable mild depression, which is not good. Thank you for asking this question. It has helped me.

This is a topic we talk about from time to time, and I think it's a good one and very relevant, but this post is less about the topic and more a detailed account of your experience with someone.

We love when people discuss their experiences -- keeping them respectful and cognizant of legal risks -- but please keep that in the Reviews forum.

I didn't quite say that but I appreciate you doing it.

Thing is: The first paragraph belongs here, as does junglebeast's reply. The rest belongs in Reviews.

I would have just split that up into two posts.

I see your point. It's kind of a hybrid post.

bdsm or seeing a domme is certainly one of severals form of therapy to some people. Anecdotally there are dozens and hundreds of reports of basic mood elevation from being spanked or caned or whipped, and there is the study from Siberia on the topic of the use of whipping and caning on those who, either male or female, have had addiction or drugs, alcohol or various neuroses. Oh, neurosis means a minor form of so-called mental illness, such as phobia, panic attacks, poor mood, depression, etc.

In addition to the anecdotes, there are the formal, controlled psychological studies. . . . But different recipients of a domme visit have different purposes . . . and having the different purposes probably influences the degree to which the visit is therapeutic, if at all!