Most of the scams I’ve seen haven’t been overly sophisticated. I just cleared out about 50 message requests on X from Dommes who were proactively reaching out to me to see if I’d be their personal slave, imagine that.

I stopped using Eros after they stopped allowing website links and dropped the BDSM section. It just seems like a scammers paradise these days.

I always look at Twitter history, website, and OF/LF sites. I tend to “stalk” for a while before I reach out. If they are on SP or NF, I often try to do some text exchanges or a call to feel them out.

In my 20 years, I’ve only lost one deposit and that wasn’t a scam per se, just a rather unscrupulous Domme. I do think the scams are getting more sophisticated though and likely to get worse.

My other words of wisdom to subs, is it’s ok to search for Dommes when your horny, but don’t book or reach out. I’ve avoided a few bad decisions that way lol

I also personally try to accept that sometimes I roll the dice with a less established Domme and I’m taking on some risk. In my old age I mostly play with Dommes I know or reach out to well established ones - like someday going to Paris to get kicked in the balls by Domina M.