@NaughtyNickB Rereading that, i hope it doesnt come off as agressive. I didnt't mean it that way. I was really relating to what you wrote, because I spent a long time trying to balance both a vanilla private life and kink. it took for me an expensive divorce and a few difficult break-ups after that to resolve it -- it wasnt being outed. it was that I was putting myself in a position where I couldnt enjoy either vanilla life or kink. If you really want to explore "immersive" in the context of maintaining balance in your life, id suggest developing a rapport over time with a Domina who might be open to an extended session, an overnight or travel. I think its worth it to yourself not to view it as something that you try to hide as a "work trip" even if the travel might be incorporated into work travel schedule. But rather think about where it fits for you as a priority in terms of time and expense at this point in your life (and maybe how you might hope it to evolve as conditions evolve).