@NaughtyNickB i know you didn't intend it to be impertinent but that sounds like maybe its a deeper issue to work out in your life. i say this because if youre not being honest with yourself i dont think you would be able to really get into the spirit of "immersive." im not judging and there's plenty of reason to be discrete but there's also plenty of ways to explore kink within the parameters of what works for you.

Trying to go beyond those if youre not in a position to do so comfortably (which i tried to do for years too) is really a recipe for unhappiness.

Also, Dominas are people too with varied and busy lives -- and in many cases, more complex than most of us. They too organize their schedules in light of other obligations and priorities.