Among the aspects of BDSM that seems different now than when I started decades ago are the numbers of dommes who identify as Mommy Dommes. I'm sure among the adult baby crowd this has always been a thing, but I don't remember dommes explicitly embracing that as their main identity or modality.

This identification clearly works for several of the very well established and successful dommes I see identifying themselves this way, and obviously for their subs as well. No judgement or criticism at all from me, but I'm curious, for subs on this board, is anyone compelled towards dommes who identify as Mommy's? What for you is the appeal?

Hi Palmer,

Like you I have nothing but respect and tolerance for whatever people choose as their kink or fetish. I certainly wouldn't want anyone judging mine, and I recognize that you did not do so in your post.

To each their own, but like you I don't see the attraction to that type of FemDomme. Sincere best of luck to subs and Dommes who enjoy that type of play so if that is your thing then by all means go for it.

Jack

Thanks for the reply and, yes, to reiterate, no judgment or criticism from me. I am just wondering how broad the appeal is and how and why people connect with this particular domme identity.

Not my kink either, but one of the dungeons I play at has an entire room dedicated to it. It seems to be one of their main focus area, so I suspect it has pretty broad appeal. I think it goes along with ABDL. But again not my kink so others here know way more than I. Here’s the link though if interested in checking it out.

https://www.thegoddessgirls.com/

Not my thing / kink either. So no comments (or judgement) from me either.

Get yo' Freak On!!!

Celeste

People who enjoy a "Mommy" role/play aren't always doing it for ABDLers. Sometimes Dommes enjoy providing a nurturing role to their subs/clients, offering tuck ins, story time, hugs, cuddling, guidance, etc. It's a facet of human needs that people come to Dommes to fulfill.

It’s not my kink, but respect for others who like it. But it would never be for me. I need the commanding, controlling, authoritative domme!

Thanks for the dommes perspective, Mistress Tissa. That is always neat to hear and understand, and why people do what they do. I guess ultimately it boils down to desires and feeling good in a space at a moment in time. Thank you for providing that!

Celeste

Like others here, Mommy dommes aren't my thing but I contacted Miss Bobbi from NYC (and now Westchester, NY) at least a decade ago. Here's her site: https://www.mommydiscipline.com/

I contacted her because two of my mature bodybuilder/Mistresses who would travel to the city retired with a couple of months of each other and I was looking for a Mistress who was tall and mature for either my Amazon Queen or next-door neighbor roleplay.

I called, mentioned the roleplay and said I wasn't into a "Mommy" scenario but if she wanted to hand spank me a bit during a session that was okay with me. Miss Bobbi said fine, had the session and it was a great time. Glad to see by the looks of this new-and-improved website that she's still going strong.

My observation is merely pointing out the reason why the OG may see more pros embrace this classification as I too, understand there are varied levels of kink and fetish. My aim is not to shame anyone.

Culminating from the age of social media influencing, once SESTA/FOSTA and the COVID outbreak took full effect and literally changed the game for physical AKA in-person sessions, pros had to figure out a way to market, sometimes to very niche audiences.

Although some may not see the surface level of attraction to this type of FemDomming (hate to use the term “basic” when describing kink) the basic frameworks are present in most FemDom scenes.

As @Mistress Tessa mentioned the Mommy/Dommy/e characterization focuses on specific aspects of kink and domination. The fetishes that Mommy Dommy/e types focus on that may seem unappealing to those who don’t identify with or feel attracted to the Mommy Dommy/e marketing strategy could be found in “regular” FemDom sessions; nurturing (sub drop aftercare), MILF fetishization (nylon/stocking and titty worship), guidance (long-term training), etc.

Much like the uprising of the “Bully Domme” which can focus on hardcore humiliation and financial domination – the core elements of the kink were present during in-person BDSM sessions only now, they are emphasized more for marketing and branding purposes to keep up with the war on consensual sex work.

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