No, it's not "OK". But it happens. It is part of doing business. Have you never walked into a store even though you had no intention of buying anything?
Your analogy doesn't quite work. You're talking about the equivalent of someone "window shopping" which is the vast majority of traffic that me and all other Dommes get to our websites and galleries, into which I have put a lot of (free) work.
My analogy would be more like someone who kept coming to a store and repeatedly asked someone to do to work under false pretenses, to insult or degrade the staff...you can be sure they would not be welcome. Security may even be called.
And your argument says that someone selling a personal service for upwards of $500 an hour should also be immune from any type of sales cost or effort.
Did you read my other comments in this thread? About why I ask for an "application fee"? I'm not sure if this comes from someone who doesn't understand why some of us have these charges or from someone who doesn't care.
Oh, I absolutely would try to reduce the wasted time. For example I don't answer unknown numbers on my phone because they are probably "IRS agents" who are going to send me to jail if I don't send them Amazon Gift Cards.
Ohhhh, so that's all we have to do? Not answer anonymous numbers? I wish I'd known this 10 years ago!!
One thing that I've seen Mistresses do is to send the response from an 'assistant' in a very business like fashion. Other Mistresses send responses that say things like "Yes, I'd like to make you my little b*tch" but others are strictly conventional business in tone.
So, we should hire an assistant? Pay someone to field a bunch of fake inquiries? Instead of just asking for $10, 30, 50 to stop them in the fist place?
So, charge a fee if you wish. I will seek out providers who are willing and able to answer a respectful question or two. And I would expect to be ignored for a salacious, disrespectful email, which I suspect will be treated as just another piece of spam. And I would not expect more than two responses before being asked to pay up or go away.
You don't really get the larger problem. It's not that we don't know how to do our jobs, it's that most of you don't know how to do yours.
And the flex of "you do you and I'll go somewhere else" doesn't really have the effect that some of you think it does. For me, an
"application fee" is a strategy, not a money-making opportunity. I filter out guys who appear to have no empathy for my distress and filter in the guys who do. It's a win for me.
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