Hi DominaM,
Happy New Year, and as always for your thoughtful voice. It is great to hear from you!

And I couldn’t agree more! I’ve always said that I want "you" (whoever that may be) to feel great walking out of my door, no matter what that means! Boundaries and a safe space are integral to this. When I first started, I was constantly told that I was "too nice" and would never make it because I didn’t scream, etc. I persisted and here I still am. I am pleased to see I this approach has become more "mainstream".

I like making people feel good, and vice versa. I just happen to have unconventional ways of accomplishing that.

Great to hear from you!

Best,
MVC

Hi Chi61,
Meow...I can't wait to get my claws on your balls!

Thanks for chiming in.

Best,
MVC

Hi DommeLynx,

Great minds think alike !

Best,
MVC

Yes to this. I was lucky to see you once and I did walk out feeling great. You were great and I know a second session would be even better. Unfortunately I am not close to you geographically and on top of that my freedom and logistics to session are very limited. You were super cool and down to earth. Reputation well earned.

Hi KBB,

And thanks for your reply -- nice to have this exchange with you as well.

Good points regarding the difference between the pre-pandemic and post-pandemic scenes. For me in NY the other big difference is the decline of the houses following the raids of 2008. The steady rhythm of dommes beginning in houses, gaining experience and then going independent was broken. Now, so many dommes start as independents with, as I comment on on another thread, stringent screening requirements, which are just too much for me, especially with someone new.

Unexpectedly, following my previous post in this thread the opportunity has arisen to session again with the out-of-town domme I thought I wouldn't be able to session with for a while, so maybe a more regular (and monogamous) situation is more achievable at the moment.

Palmer, to your point, I had a discussion with someone today about the 2008 raids. I completely agree about the demise of NYC dungeons which meant a loss of learning the trade by many Mistresses.

I'm of a certain age and not being nostalgic in what I'm about to say. The difference between 2008 and today, forget about the cost of sessions and that I don't feel right sessioning with Mistresses under 40. In my opinion it is that dehumanization of social media, the difficulty of making it financially no matter your job, and the "sport" of judging/harrassing etc. people based on age, race, sex, and other criteria makes having a first time session - as a dominatrix or a sub - far more problematic than 20 years ago. I'm lucky I have a Mistress who is under-the-radar and known for years. Okay... off the soap box.

Hi Junglebeast,

Thanks for your comments here.



What exactly do you mean here? I understand the comments about online culture in general and I agree, but in what way does it make it more problematic for both parties?

Use of "problematic" was me trying to be diplomatic. Today a first meeting with a stranger for an activity like BDSM has to generate more - anxiety, heartburn, stress - than years before. Maybe it is my birth certificate showing, but the world is a lot darker than 15 or 20 years ago.

I understand, thanks.

Hi, Goddess!

Happy Six Year Anniversary, Mistress! It's so good hearing from you, Ma'am! My journey with you has been nothing short of transformational. There were so many things I didn't know when I started doing this, so many things I didn't understand. I wasn't in great shape when you found me, but you helped me put the pieces back together and my trajectory as a sub has gone steadily upward ever since!


Thank you so much, Goddess. That means the world to me. I too am astounded and amazed that, even after six years, every session with you just keeps getting better! I don't even know how that's possible (no doubt because you're so amazing!) but it's true. I've never experienced chemistry like this with anyone. You're an artist at what you do. You're Picasso and I'm your canvass. You're Segovia and I'm your guitar. That's how it feels when I'm under your divine control!

Uh oh. Thinking about that is getting me very excited, Ma'am. I would love to revisit that again with you someday.

Thank you so much for your gracious reply, Mistress. Waking up and reading this made my day! You always have my deepest adoration and devotion, Goddess. Thank you for bringing so much joy into my life!