Hi ASPX:

It's like old home week on The Buzz! smile I'm really glad to hear from other experienced subs like yourself. It's good getting your perspective on this question.

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Congratulations & I am extremely happy for both you and MVC. She is an amazing person & I am glad y'all found each other.


Thank you so much! I really appreciate that and it means a lot to me. smile

MVC is indeed a beautiful and amazing person. She doesn't really have a "persona." What you see is what you get. I know that I'm incredibly fortunate to have found her and I'm grateful for that blessing every day. I will say that all the other dommes I saw before MVC were important too. I needed to go through all of those experiences before I was ready for her and could truly appreciate how incredible she is. I needed to have my boundaries firmly in place and know what I was about first too.

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I am unique in that I am poly when it comes to relationships (bdsm & other) but that each of my relationships is really deep and dedicated during the time we are together (which is more that just a session & sometimes involves me moving in with a Domme I am serving for more than a week at a time). Its weird to have multiple relationships where I am basically collared but each one is extremely special to that Domme & me (it is probably similar to yours & MVCs in that it involves breaks in between seeing each other, with the difference being that those breaks are filled in by service to other Dommes).


I knew if I asked this crowd my question, I'd get some interesting responses and I haven't been disappointed! grin Good for you. That's amazing. Where do you find the time for all this? I'm an old married guy with a full time job, so my kinky explorations with pros have to be kept under strict limits; time wise, financial, etc. It doesn't sound like you have many limitations holding you back, so congratulations on that score! smile

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My feeling is that monogamy has to be a two-way street (unless cuckolding is key to the dynamic, but even then it still has to be her cucking to cuck you & not just to get laid). Pros rarely have those kinds of relationships with client subs & my experience is that most have some other primary relationship over and above anything that they do as a Pro, including collared relationships with a client sub. So, if that is how they choose to live their life then I should do the same.

I totally understand your point, but I don't really think of it as monogamy. I'm married, so I'm not really being monogamous either. I think of it more like choosing to see one therapist or personal trainer over seeing several, based on the type of experience I'm looking for. I want MVC to see as many other clients as she wants or needs to, because I want her to stay in business! She could never do that if she only had me as a client, that's for sure! grin My being "faithful" and her seeing other clients lends the whole situation a kinky cuckolding vibe that I kind of like. I've never had a problem with being one slave among many, in fact I think it's kind of hot.

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In my experience, this actually works better for them as they can pick me up & put me down as they see fit within the complexity of their life.
I know what you mean. MVC kind of does that with me anyway out of necessity. She's a very busy lady! grin I also go back to my vanilla life. It's all good. Seriously, a little separation is healthy. It's okay to take a break between sessions. Time apart only makes it hotter and more exciting the next time I get to kneel at her feet.

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Weirdly, I actually have only seen one new person since the beginning of the Pandemic so it's not like I am slutting around like I used to, so it's not the joy of the chase or some new kinky experience that gets me going, it's that every person brings something different to my life, which enhances every other relationship. Just my way of thinking..


Yup. I completely agree about every person bringing something different to my life. Sounds like you're going through a monogamous period yourself right now. Congrats. I'm happy for you. Good to know you've found someone you're excited about.

It's all been an incredible and magical journey for me, though not without it's ups and downs. I needed to do this though. These are experiences I needed to have in my life in order to better understand who I truly am.

Great hearing from you! Thanks so much for weighing in!





Edited by kinkybootbeast (01/03/25 10:17 AM)
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