KBB, this is a fascinating subject and it made me think about my journey in the scene. I've been through several phases in my decades of sessions, getting in and out of the scene over the years and experimenting with a variety of Mistresses, and for a time, dominant female bodybuilders. My first Mistress was Belle De Jour when I was in college. I had a few sessions with her, but I wasn't ready emotionally or financially to continue. A decade later I returned, called Belle and she recommended Mistresses that worked for her based on the activities I like, their personalities and amazingly she was correct. (While Belle got me involved in her training rookie Mistresses with her three times, I found one-on-one scenes are for me, and not multiple dominas.)

After another pause, by the mid '90s into early '00s I "played the field" but did become a regular with Mistresses and bodybuilders.

In the late '90s I met my now under-the-radar Mistress, who I have seen regularly, with the only interruptions when either one of us dropped out of the scene or moved away. Over the past several years I see her exclusively. Based on our many years of play, and our mutual trust, she has expanded my fetish repetoire. Yes she is devoted to the scene, and plays the powerful dominatrix role perfectly, but is kind and understanding. She's slightly younger than me and I'm convinced that when she drops out of the scene for good, so will I, because I doubt I'll never find another Mistress again with the same chemistry.