Originally Posted By kinkybootbeast

I'd heard of boundaries before going into therapy, and thought I knew what they were, but I didn't honestly understand them or how they worked. Folks need boundaries on both sides of the whip in this type of relationship, any type of relationship really, but BDSM especially I think.



I 1000% agree with this. Understanding boundaries has helped my relationship with clients immensely. I find I can go deeper and harder as the boundaries become clearer. My approach, for example, is to separate that a client is not actually a "worthless, dirty whore," but instead someone who finds it exciting to be called a "worthless, dirty whore." That's okay. Hey, I like to dress like Catwoman and kick people in the balls, but I can do that and still be a nice, caring person. (Yay therapy!)

I see more dominas in NYC, SF, and LA taking this approach, and I think it's a positive trend in the industry. I am really glad you posted this, and I hope it inspires more subs to try this route.
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