Originally Posted By kinkybootbeast

Because my approach to submission makes me potentially vulnerable, I needed to find someone very special to share this type of connection with, somebody I could trust implicitly. It took me a while to find her.

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I also needed to do some work on myself before I was truly ready for this experience. I had to go all the way down the rabbit hole and get my heart broken, not just once but a couple of times. I had to find a kink-friendly therapist and work on my boundary issues before I was ready to serve Mistress Right. It's a tricky balancing act. You almost have to live in two realities at once. As a client, I must always remember that my relationship with my Domme is both personal AND professional.


Bravo! Congratulations on your self-awareness and self-improvement. A kink-aware therapist is (almost) always a good decision. (Like dominas, not all therapists are good, but many are.) A good therapist is really on your side and helps you refine your needs that are authentically yours instead of what you might think you need or have to be.

As a therapy veteran myself, I highly recommend it to kinksters trying to navigate a landscape specifically meant to "break rules and taboos." It's helped me with pro-domme pitfalls such as "believing one's own hype" or "comparison traps." I love where I take my practice now, where I can be very caring for my clients but keep healthy boundaries--for all involved. Some clients want the drama of boundaries pushed, and I am "too professional" for them. That's fine. I am sure they will find someone better suited.

Anyway, Ms Cayne is amazing, and I wish you both a long and healthy journey in kink.
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