You are so right. But today Doing 2 hour session to build the chemisry will one $3200-$4000 to find out. Middle class guy is priced out.

So, you're saying that the Dommes were not able to provide what was negotiated? Or just misunderstood?



And what was it?



I don't think a Domme with less than 2 years pro experience is automatically going to deliver a disappointing session but if that Domme is not really Dominant or a lifestyle player and was just trained to do this as a job, then I think you are more likely to have a dud, especially with certain types of play, like heavier stuff.




It's Lady Rouge. And, yes, I know her, though not closely. She's a lovely person but I can't vouch for her as a Domme as I've never worked with her.



I think this is thoughtful of you and I know she'd appreciae it.

May I take a moment to offer another suggestion? Me. LOL!

If you're a pain slut, and you're wiling to come to Philly, consider a scene with me. I'm a known sadist who has several pain sluts as subs. In fact, one of the scenes I offer is called "Pain Sluts" and it's one of my discounted.

Maybe you've noticed and are not interested. I just wanted to mention it -- especially because I'm feel pretty confident that I could give you a much better experience than you've been having.

It's never fun feeling disappointed about an experience, especially when you prepare and do your research, sorry this is happening to you!

A couple points I'd like to raise,

Maybe I missed this --- Are you spending 3200 - 4000 for each 2 hour session or do you mean multiple 2 hour sessions per Domme? What are their base hourly rates? Because if that's just the rate for 2 hours I better start touring where you're playing, I'm way below that in terms of rates. Maybe going down to 1 hour and see how that goes?
Are you seeing Dommes with a big age gap? You could also look into booking Dommes that are as seasoned as you are. If you've been at it 20 years,--- try to search for someone of equal experience, or close to it.

wtf. My two hour session WITH phone consultation is less than 1k, where are you located I need to move there too lol

I missed the $3200 - 4000 per session.

It sounds very expensive unless it includes travel expenses.

Let's say it was standard BSDM and her 2-hour rate was $800
Airfare can vary a lot but let's say it was $1000
Lodging for 3 nights we'll use $900
Car rental or rideshare $150
Food $200
That's almost $3200 and I'm not being thrifty.

With that many sessions in a row that didn't work for you, you should consider the possibility that the common factor is you. Not in any bad way, but maybe your needs have changed and a physical session with a dominatrix is not something that satisfies you the way it used to. We all change on our journeys.

Concur

Wow, like others have said, this is an astounding amount to pay for a 2 hour session unless it's a FMTY situation - or you are flying to them. NYC is one of the most expensive markets in the States and you can still get a 2 hour session with a very established/experienced Domme in a great space for about $1000 for 2 hours. What market area are you pulling from?

I’m confused. Original post says 8 sessions 90 minutes to 2 hours each for a total of $7,500 to $8,500 which maths out to about $1k a session which as Mistress Ayn points out is standard for a 2 hour session with an established Domme in NYC.

Subsequent post says $3,200 to $4,000 for a two hour session. As someone who sessions frequently, I’ve never seen prices that high. $1k for 2 hours is much more common in my experience

Though I did do an absolutely amazingly wonderful 2 day FMTY recently in that price range, but that’s best saved for another thread….