I sent an email apologizing that I'd need to cancel the session and asked what I could've done better, never heard back. As far as the discussion on the definition of "well known" this is someone that every single person in the BDSM community, at least in the US, would recognize I just don't want to name them. I think I was communicating with an assistant for most if not all communication. Which I don't have an issue with, it was just odd that I got no response. This communication was wildly different than other dommes I've seen before where once we agree on a date I'm instructed to send the deposit and then once it's received I'm notified session is confirmed. And then typically I'm instructed to confirm the day prior as well. And when I do I always get a response back so I know everything is still good

Based on the lack of a reply to your most recent email, it is all the better that you cancelled the session. I think you handled the entire matter very well.

Appreciate you updating. I agree with subjack, you handled this well and should have no regrets. Hoping things go well for you in your future kink journey

I've been following this thread and I definitely think you made the right choice. It's always disappointing when you plan something you look forward to, only to have to cancel. That being said, I have a couple points I'd like to inquire about, --out of curiosity -- to try to work out what happened, I find it so odd that 1. She did not ask for a deposit 2. She just completely dropped off without an email when theres a session booked.

How many emails were exchanged when booking originally? Would it be enough that she'd block your email or dismiss your request? Did you make sure to book through her website with her email address? Is this possibly a Domme imposter? Is it possible your email address got blocked unintentionally? I constantly have emails bounce when they're iCloud addresses. Have you tried writing her from a different email address?