Originally Posted By Aztoilet
I scheduled a session with a well known Domme, gave reference, ID and was told things were good. No deposit was asked for so I asked about that 9 days before the session. Got no response so I followed up 5 days before the session. It's now 2 days prior to the session so I sent another email today. My flight is tomorrow so I need to make a decision soon. Would you cancel the session?

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No phone number unfortunately. I was never asked to send a deposit. After some emails back and forth figuring out a date I got an email confirming the session date. Many times a deposit is required so I asked about it and never heard back.


First of all, I'm sorry it sounds like you were planning a special trip to session with someone and you ended up feeling confused about the whole thing.

As far as what's going on? There's not enough info here to say for sure.

My first question is: What "well known" Domme in this day and age doesn't ask for a deposit? Maybe someone practicing for a long time, when people didn't ask for them and never changed her protocol? Someone covertly using a non-adult-friendly payment processor and didn't feel confident about your sending her a deposit there? Or someone who doesn't take them because they're flaky and know they're flaky and by not taking them they don't have to worry about returning them? Or some other reason?

Since we don't know who it is, and we don't know anything about what this "back and forth" entailed, it's difficult to say what actually brought you to this place. Maybe you missed something she said to you or have blinders on about your own behavior, something like that.

Deposit requirements for all first-time subs aside, if it were me this wouldn't happen. I avoid any ambiguity where clients should feel confident about expectations. If someone gets to a point where they feel they need to come to an internet forum to ask strangers whether they think they do or do not have an an appointment with me I see that as a communication failure by me as a professional.


Edited by Mistress Tissa (11/16/24 02:29 AM)