The male submissive at my session shared an interesting observation—he claimed that all the women he’d encountered simply lay silently in bed, waiting for sex to unfold. I was taken aback by this, especially considering his attractive appearance and incredibly fit body. One might assume that such qualities would guarantee a more fulfilling experience. It made me wonder: perhaps he's simply been unlucky, perhaps those women weren't right for him, and he was too hesitant to express what he truly needed—a dominant woman, someone unafraid to speak her mind and take control in the bedroom.

But then again, as I reflected on it, I began to wonder: maybe his issues lay elsewhere. Perhaps it wasn't about the women at all. Maybe their silence stemmed from disappointment, not because they were passive, but because his performance left something to be desired. Sex is about connection, power dynamics, and energy—if he couldn’t deliver in those areas, no amount of muscle or good looks would make up for it. Maybe, in the end, those women weren’t waiting for him to act; they were waiting for him to prove he could.

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