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I will disagree with you here. The "professional" part (i.e. tribute for experience) doesn't magically make the humanity disappear. But it also depends on how you play. I'm very personal and intimate and work best with subs ready and willing. I regularly have someone walk in the room, I read him/her like a book, they surrender to me, and...magic.


I wasn't thinking of money being a factor, just time spent with each other to form enough to know each other enough for D/s to take root. Time spent in a professional situation is limited.

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Sure but lots of things can make you depressed, though. And in this case the lock-up may not be the actual cause. It can be the trigger for deeper things like the cage being a physical manifestation/enforcement of one's fear of intimacy. Cue depression.


At last! Another person who sees that BDSM *can* be about avoiding intimacy. It is amazing how many people don't see this or at least say it out loud.

I also agree that many things can cause depression.

However it also interesting how a few types of depression can easily clear up after a few days of masturbation. :-)