I talk to subs about the difficulties qe face all the time & I have two married sub friends who are dedicated and basically personals to Pro Dommes.

One's wife had a chronic disease that made her disinterested in sex & that put her into facilities to care for her at times. They never had an explicit discussion (and they had a D/s based relationship in the bedroom) but she basically gave him permission to see someone if he didn't put it in her face & sje was always the priority. From a marriage perspective it worked although he went thru hell when breaking up with the Domme about a year later becaude he was sure she would contact his wife.

The other has been married to a woman he loves for 40+ years but that is basically frigid beyond straight sex. He has been "busted" several times just for having dildos. He also had a Domme who lived about an hour away who would have him over to do chores and build things (he has the skills and equipment) and he loved that relationship.

But, he chose to give it up earlier this year after getting "busted" again & realizing that if he got caught doing the Domme stuff by his wife, he was done. So, he ended that relationship (She totally understood & accepted the decision even though it hurt her).

Two different situations that both guys took big risks with to satisfy a need their spouses couldn't/wouldn't fulfill for them.