Some years ago on New Years Day I was sitting next to my wife and received a text from a Domme that sent shivers through me. I was a regular of hers and we sometimes did things outside of session. She knew me very well and was truly a great Domme. The text said something like “Everything changes today. You are to supply the dungeon with fresh flowers twice a week and pay for my coffee “ I sat there kind of stunned and excited. I wanted to do this but at the same time I was thinking how in the hell am I going to be able to do this? My wife and I spend a lot of time together and I just can’t go out without her asking where I am going. I think later that week I was free at night and text the Domme that I wanted to bring flowers over to the dungeon but she replied back that it wasn’t a good time and I definitely realized at that point this was not going to be possible. I was worried that she would be angry with me and not want to see me anymore and I didn’t know what to do. Finally a couple months later I was out near her space waiting on a car repair and I text her and she told me to stop by. She told me everything was fine with us and that she just wanted to give me a chance to start at this to see if I could do it which wasn’t going to be possible for me and we resumed just regular sessions.

My post here is to ask Dommes and subs on this board how common is it that personal subs are married and how do they do it? I just assume most personals are single but maybe I am wrong.

I posted a thread over on the old MF in its final days that addressed this somewhat -- it was more about what the transition from client to "slavery" and being a personal slave looked like more generally. (i.e., it was less about the marriage aspect of it). There were some good responses there, one from a regular (and married) poster who I'm not sure is over here, so I won't name him. But he wound up finding it too much to handle although also a learning experience.

I would assume that given the rise of more digitally-oriented relationships, financial domination, etc., that there are more married subs in some form of personal slave roles in at least a long-distance kind of way. (For example, you could cover those flower deliveries and coffee even if you're not able to deliver them yourself.)