I think the point about not sharing emotions if its not welcome is important but for some, and i have had the luck to serve some Dommmes, and one in particular whom i serve now, who encourage sharing of thoughts and feelings about the experience. i suppose that might be different if the thoughts and feelings were negative, of course.

i was asked recently in a vanilla conversation about skills for communication in a professional environment and i mentioned that i find i can communicate at work more readily if i can share my feelings and not just the facts of the matter. The person who was coaching me on the comms said "are you able to be that vulnerable with others"?

i thought immediately of my experiences allowing myself to be emotionally open and vulnerable in bdsm play and thought, yes i can and i even feel liberated by it (compared to my instinct in vanilla life to be very self-restrained about my feelings).

it need not be of course sharing of emotions though to be vulnerable. i think far and away the most vulnerable i have ever felt was being stripped and bound ass-up on a bench as my Owner answered a knock at the door to let in another person She had arranged to come by to fuck me ....i didnt know who this person was or what they would do to me and i would never see them ...but i felt vulnerable and at the same time very open because i knew i could trust my Owner ...that is the sort of vulnerability i had in mind...