Do you dream of being thrown directly into intense play when starting a scene? Or do you prefer to wade slowly into subspace?

How do you prefer your adrenaline to be administered? Suddenly or seductively?

Great topic.

I (or I should say SHE, since she leads) has done both over time. And both were really great and effective. I really think it was communication, mood, and tempo leading up to the scene.

One time, she completely ravaged me as soon as the door was opened. I mean clothes ripped off ravaged. I won't disclose what kind of kinks we are into.

But, as time goes on, our dynamic has changed. We are much more mature, and know each other much better. We generally chat for a bit just to check up on each others happenings and well being. This is so good too, as we now connect on a different level. But don't misinterpret this - we still play VERY HARD. It is pure fire when we play - very intense and full of energy. That is our style.

Again, great topic.....and can't wait to read other posts.....including yours from a legendary professional domme.

Celeste

Over the cliff is the only way to go.

I definitely lean towards the slow build up school....steadily increasing bondage and restriction along with steadily increasingly intense sensation play........a "just when you think it can't get any worse" sort of thing.........

Domina M, my most "over the cliff" experience I had was with a mature female bodybuilder with a southern accent that was dominant. I never met her before.

I told her my role play on the phone (She is the Amazon Queen capturing/using Tarzan) and I mistakenly suggested we start when I reached her hotel room. She opened the door, grabbed me by the arm, slammed the door and began almost literally ripping my clothes off with one hand, as she pinned me to the wall with the other, talking trash. After a bit of work I held her off long enough to whisper, "Let me take my clothes off." She whispered "Okay honey," and stepped back.

When I was down to my leopard print she looked at me and jumped right back into character, pinning me against the wall, talking trash throwing me all over the room, using brute strength and wrestling holds. At the end of the session we were a sweaty mess on the bed and she stepped out of character. She asked in that seductive southern drawl, "Was that okay honey?" She was like a whirlwind. Saw her one more time after that, same deal except I was prepared. I brought an extra shirt and slacks. LOL!

I like both. I used to see a wrestler-domme who would capture me in her taller, much stronger physique the second I’d walk thru the door and we were off. The Great Mistress Brianna would pounce on me at times and those were fun starts. But Mistress Chloe, who I see most often since Brianna retired, starts more slowly. “Seductive” isn’t quite the right word. It’s like we glide into the session “luxuriously.”

I prefer to hit the ground running. Part of why that is so is because I experience a pronounced anticipatory subspace.

I like to chat for a few minutes before we start. Typically helps me calm down a bit, builds anticipation. Once we start play though I like it to start hard. I’m not a fan of slowly building intensity

That sounds like a good mix. Did you find you were always in the mood when you were brought right into it?

No talking before hand?

I always talk before to read the mood of my subject.