The irony of being a dominatrix is that I ended up falling for a toilet slave.

Out of the 570 or so men I’ve encountered in my line of work, he was only the second one to truly captivate me. His submissive, shy demeanor had an unexpected allure, and his athletic physique only heightened the attraction during our sessions. Despite the power dynamics between us, I found myself developing a soft spot for him—dare I say, even a crush.

There were moments when I thought about asking him out, of breaking the boundaries of our roles. But deep down, I knew it was impossible. We were fundamentally incompatible, with our personalities clashing starkly outside the confines of the dungeon. It became painfully clear that whatever connection we shared was confined to the fantasy world we had created together.

Accepting this reality, I made the difficult decision to delete his contact information, hoping to sever any emotional ties and maintain the clear boundary between my professional and personal life.

Wow, this is interesting and fascinating.

I understand why you did what you did......but - why not go for it and give it a shot? Obviously, he means alot to you, and you don't have those feelings frequently.

Life is too short to not "go for it", and live off of your feelings. No regrets. I try to live that way, but it is easier said than done.

Good luck. I hope you post updates on this.

Celeste

Now I tell you why i did not ask him out.
my favorite slave is swiss slave and i found him sexually attractive. I actually dated my favorite slave earlier but why i chose not to date this canadian slave because he is a dead end. he is occupied by a very demanding job and he has tons of people to take care of so he is obviously not a husband material although he is single! He is about 20 years older than me.

I applaud your candor. I am not going to second guess your decision.

thanks. i wrote an article about why i chose the swiss slave over the canadian in shanghai.


I only found 2 out of 592 submissive men I met in shanghai sexually attractive. Apparently very few man turn me on sexually.

Recently a slave asked me why I chose not to date the canadian slave since only 2 men can turn me on!

I met two submissive men for BDSM sessions, each at different stages of my life in Shanghai. They are the only 2 sub men I found undeniably sexually attractive out of 592 slaves, but I ended up developing a deeper connection with only one of them — the German-speaking Swiss. The other, a Canadian, was eventually removed from my WeChat contacts, and here’s why.

The Swiss man stood out as more than just a casual submissive. He embodied the qualities I seek in a potential submissive husband. He’s single, a few years older than me, and possesses an extraordinary pain threshold, which naturally appeals to my dominant side. Beyond the physical connection, he’s considerate, generous, and, importantly, emotionally available. The chemistry between us is undeniable, and the feelings are mutual. His life circumstances and temperament make him an ideal candidate for a long-term dynamic, possibly evolving into a D/s relationship with deep emotional and practical ties.

On the other hand, the Canadian, while also single, is about 20 years older than me. His life is consumed by an extremely demanding job, leaving little time or energy for personal relationships. He also carries the weight of many responsibilities, constantly tending to people in his life who require his care. As much as he may enjoy the occasional session, it’s clear that his circumstances leave little room for the type of intimate, dedicated D/s relationship I’m seeking. His divided attention and lack of availability made it obvious to me that he could never evolve into the submissive husband I desire. Hence, keeping him in my life became unnecessary.

In the end, it wasn’t just about attraction but about recognizing who could truly complement my life and my needs. The Swiss man shows real potential, while the Canadian simply doesn’t fit into the vision I have for a lasting, meaningful dynamic.