I've been a member, and visited off and on, for years. It was based on a suggestion of a mistress who I think is now semi-retired or lifestyle now. Every once and a while I'll visit to see what she's up to. Several years ago I was searching for a couple of Mistresses I used to see in NYC during the '90s or early '00s to see if they were still active. Caught up with one who is all but retired, reached out to her and began sessioning with her again. That's the value I see in Fetlife. I don't need all the drama.