So I am currently in Europe and having a great time. Of course I saw a Domme while here. The session went well but it took an awkward turn in our post-session chat. She started asking me about my favorite back in the states and I mentioned a Domme who is in her mid-20s. I am now 40 (the Domme in Europe is like 34). She asked me if she is the youngest one I saw to which I replied I saw a 19 year old dominatrix when I was 37. Oddly she told me that was “F-ing weird” and immoral. According to her basically, anyone over 30 shouldn’t see a Domme under 21 and it was “taking advantage of them.” The reason seeing a much younger Domme appealed to me was what I thought was a reversal of power dynamics but according to her just because she was professional I should have waited for her to be older and fully sure she wanted to be a Domme for her career or something.

It is weird since the usual stuff I’ve read in this forum against seeing younger Dommes is safety in they might not know what they’re doing yet and/or might not have fully professional habits yet (I had fun with the Domme in question and thought she seemed pretty advanced for her age and did a good job at trying to be professional). I have never heard this before as to why to not see one.

Anyway it kinda has put a damper on my mostly fun trip as it made me feel like a crap person, but in any case I thought some perspective here would inspire a good debate.

The critical thing that eurodom didn't mention was *how* it was taking advantage of them.

Providing a business woman with business. You cad! :-)

It was sort of an argument as if I was dating her and basically compared me to Leonardo DiCaprio- I did maintain a friendship but nothing more.

You weren't dating her.

You provided a business woman with your business.

Was this talk after a session?

As far as DiCaprio goes, I don't know what he is like as a man, but I don't see anything fundamentally wrong with a person dating someone 20 years older than they are. Presumably everyone involved is at least 18. Adults who have the prerogative as adults to date who they want to date.

Bottom line, it is the purview of very young people to think foolish things.

You did nothing wrong and I am guessing you provided some insights in that conversation to eurodom she will appreciate years later.

Thanks I appreciate it. Yes the talk was after. In fairness to her there may have been a miscommunication in our conversation- first she asked if it was a fantasy or a real session or if I saw her at my current age of 40 (in your opinion that’s now moot even if I was 40) But I appreciate to support.

Also I know I don’t need to defend myself to you but I’ve seen Dommes in their 20s and their 30s and they’ve all mostly been fun (even she was and I’d give her a good review as far as the session went).

Of course you don't. I'm not the one who accused you of anything . :-)

Haha indeed

LOL! This reminds me of when a friend was concerned it was immoral for her to go to bike week in Daytona with her married boyfriend because women are known to go topless there. I'm sure you are friendly trolling. Funny topic.

Unfortunately I am not friendly trolling. Maybe I’m not the best story teller at telling it word for it but the general gist of it was I was wrong to session with a Domme half my age. I wish I was trolling lol.

Just chiming in to say you're fine. The 34-year-old might be too immature, though.

You didn't say which country in Europe. I can't speak for all of them, but the ones I am familiar with, the dommes I know, ALL started in their mid to late 30s or even their 40s. It might be strange to hear of a domina starting so young, not you at all.

You're fine. I see many clients 20 years younger than me. No one makes me feel bad about that.