So I am currently in Europe and having a great time. Of course I saw a Domme while here. The session went well but it took an awkward turn in our post-session chat. She started asking me about my favorite back in the states and I mentioned a Domme who is in her mid-20s. I am now 40 (the Domme in Europe is like 34). She asked me if she is the youngest one I saw to which I replied I saw a 19 year old dominatrix when I was 37. Oddly she told me that was “F-ing weird” and immoral. According to her basically, anyone over 30 shouldn’t see a Domme under 21 and it was “taking advantage of them.” The reason seeing a much younger Domme appealed to me was what I thought was a reversal of power dynamics but according to her just because she was professional I should have waited for her to be older and fully sure she wanted to be a Domme for her career or something.

It is weird since the usual stuff I’ve read in this forum against seeing younger Dommes is safety in they might not know what they’re doing yet and/or might not have fully professional habits yet (I had fun with the Domme in question and thought she seemed pretty advanced for her age and did a good job at trying to be professional). I have never heard this before as to why to not see one.

Anyway it kinda has put a damper on my mostly fun trip as it made me feel like a crap person, but in any case I thought some perspective here would inspire a good debate.