I agree completely with you on your second point. I have a huge interest in degradation play. Licking the soles of a Domme’s boots , eating off the floor or forced golden consumption are all things I’ve experienced in session. However, the turn on wasn’t those activities themselves but rather the idea of being “forced” under threat of severe punishment. I guess I see this type of thing as an expression of the Domme’s power and a demonstration of the sub’s complete helplessness. Being in strict bondage helps with getting into the right headspace too.

I was going to add my voice to those saying “hard limit” but upon reflection, with the right Domme and the right level of coercion, it’s not without at least some attraction as a fantasy.