It's not so much mean as it is the way that the natural order of things emerges and white privilege is gone. As Queen Naomi says, she experiences 'microaggressions that I never asked to be apart of' and it would be thrilling for me to be there when she reverses some of those microagressions on an obedient and willing white guy. So the Black mistress might act kindly while she is making my lower position obvious to me.

In terms of suggesting 'tude', this thread is exploring the dynamics of playing with racial stereotypes in session. I wouldn't mind being in the control of a Black woman who makes it obvious that she is someone who often doesn't get the respect that she deserves, and now, here I am, on my knees before her.