I'm curious if you say/note this explicitly? Perhaps this is another discussion for a different thread but I'm pointing this comment out specifically because I was just having the "mean" Domme talk with someone. I feel like, for Me because 'being mean' is such an 'energy' you defiantly have to pay AND be explicit about wanting cuz 1) I don't read minds. 2) Being mean isn't My energy but I will bring it if requested. I tell people "I'm firm... you have to pay for mean." And 3) Dominant is not synonymous with mean.

In My experience subs are expecting meanness or 'attitude' but NEVER ask for it. They just expect it in the session practically regardless of consent.

And don't get Me started on how expecting 'tude' from Black women (even if they're a Dominatrix) has it's own racial implications but I digress...
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