Originally Posted By palmer
I think that fracturing has already occurred. I think the person encountering BDSM today would most likely do so on social media, where the brat style and findom reign. The traditional domination experience -- leather, a real dungeon -- seems like a niche experience, increasingly. And FWIW, your rates are incredibly reasonable for what you offer.


What I think explains some of this is how our culture has changed due to the immediacy the internet offers.

When you're talking about sex, and sexual fulfillment, it's actually something that I would most people have very short attention spans for: You get aroused, it builds, you want (sometimes immediate) release, and when you get it you're done. The internet is fantastic for this. Sit down, type in whatever, watch the clip, jack off, get up and go get some Cheetos.

Seeing a Domme in a dungeon is niche because it requires planning, even just going to a house. Those of us who don't offer drop-in? Even more niche. To want to schedule your "release" 2, 7, 14, 30 or more days in advance requires a particular type: a lifestyle person who is always ready to indulge in their fetish fantasy. This is why those of us who can make a full-time living as an independent are total Goddesses. You either have to be really good or you have to live in a place where you corner the market.

Did I mention we're considered a luxury service? This is not meant to be cheap.

So, session rates? Stop complaining and pay them. Bring a bottle of wine or some other nice thing for your Goddess while you're at it.


Edited by Mistress Tissa (04/14/24 09:08 PM)